January 09, 2004
What an attention-grabbing title, huh?
What an attention-grabbing title, huh? Instead of finishing our first date story tonight, I thought I'd write about what has been a running theme in my mind today: friends.
I went and had lunch with my friend today and had a wonderful time. We went and ate at GOLDENCHINABUFFET (I love how it's one word, LOL), and went and did some of our shopping. It was truly one of the most fun times I've had with a friend in years. And I really reflected a lot today on why I hardly ever bother with friends. Well actually, I'm sure it's for a lot of reasons. This sounds pretty geeky, but at this point in my life, if I were in The Sims game, my social bar would be green most of the time. I don't need a lot of social interaction. I can get what I need at home from my husband, kids, church and from writing this blog. I don't chat at all -- I hate IM'ing, and I generally hate talking on the phone. I may sound unsocial, but that's just sort of who I am.
But today I so enjoyed Frankie's company. We talked and talked and talked. And I know why I get along with her so well. Not only do we have some common interests and experiences, but we are both extremely low-maintenance. She and I could go a month without talking and be perfectly content. She is someone I really like and trust -- a very sweet and nice person, and never a person who tries to take advantage of our friendship. And Scott is good friends with her husband. They are SO GENUINE that for us it's impossible not to like them. That is the best way to describe them. Interestingly enough, I found out today that her ancestors are gypsies from Romania and the Ukraine, etc. -- cool.
I think along with my low need for a social life, I have a really hard time trusting anyone beyond the friendly acquaintance level. I don't want to sound whiny, but I have been trampled all over a few times by "friends" and I think I finally just gave up. Of course, a lot of friendships that had great potential were ended by many moves and my total lack of letter-writing or even e-mailing. And then there is more -- long story.
I must be a gypsy at heart. Maybe that's why I'm friends with a fellow gypsy.
Posted by 2Flower at January 9, 2004 08:26 PM | TrackBack