January 17, 2005

Why'd you have to go and make things so complicated?

I am making myself blog this morning. It doesn't really matter whether I decide to post it or not. Things have been increasingly complicated with my parents' relationship, and I am in the middle not so much by choice but by default. I haven't been able to contact my brother this weekend. :P He's the one who does best with talking to my dad. I have talked more to my dad in the last 2 days than I have in a year -- maybe a lifetime. And I don't enjoy it.

My mom had been planning to leave my dad for awhile now. And she finally did on Saturday. This came as a complete surprise to him and she won't talk to him or answer her cell phone when he calls or tell me or anyone else where she's staying. And he's thinks she's gone crazy (she hasn't). And to make it sound even more unbelieveable, my dad just got out of the hospital from a skull fracture from falling off a ladder last week. She had my uncle (his brother) go pick him up, and he came home to a house where all her stuff was gone and no note, etc. He did know that she had been thinking about divorcing him and he had been telling her to pack her bags and get out, but I guess in his mind she had it really good with him and wouldn't go through with it.

I hope my mom isn't sounding like a really mean person now for leaving when he was hurt, because she isn't. She's a saint. My dad isn't evil exactly -- just very controlling and verbally and emotionally abusive. And if you think I'm going to tell him that -- I'm not. ;) No, I have not reached that point in my life when I can tell him the truth about that. But reality is trying to hit him in the face, and he keeps ducking.

And so now I'm going to go back to my little world on Sims 2. I had started the Legacy Challenge, but I'm taking a break now to do a challenge that some folks on the BBS came up with called "Population Explosion". You create a Sim or a couple of Sims and see how many Sim days it takes for them to have 26 children, and you name them names from A-Z. I have baby "M" in the oven now. ;) It's really hair-tearing at times keeping up with all those little Sims. Since you can only have 8 in the house, part of the strategy is to move some of them out to have room for more. I think that playing is really good for me because it takes my mind off the things that are stressing me out and gives me a chance to control and micromanage "people". That way I can at least have the illusion that I have control over something. :>

Posted by 2Flower at January 17, 2005 10:49 AM
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I'm sorry to hear about your parents, 2flower. No matter if it's the best thing to do or not, it's never easy to go through something like this. I wish you and your whole family strength to get through this. Take care, and I agree with you about your Sims project........will you let us know when you have a baby Z? I must tell my daughter about the Sims thing; she used to play all the time. Not sure what happened. Maybe this would be a big enough challenge for her to take on.

Take care of yourself!

Posted by: otto at January 17, 2005 08:58 PM

Well, that just sucks about your parents. I hope everything will work out for the best on both sides, leaving you not in the middle, but taking on your own stuff.

Now for the important thing: Sims2! ;) The legacy challenge from N99? I didn't do that one, didn't even know about it until it was well underway and now that I've been playing with my little families I don't know that I want to... if that makes any sense.
I've gone mad downloading new clothes and recolored furniture... :)

Posted by: pam at January 19, 2005 04:49 PM

Good to hear from you.
Sorry life has been so crappy lately. :))

Posted by: stephanie, daniels_mommy at January 21, 2005 12:46 PM

Good to hear from you.
Sorry life has been so crappy lately. :'(

Posted by: stephanie, daniels_mommy at January 21, 2005 12:47 PM

I ran across your site by accident. When I read your latest Jan. 2005 posting I felt obligated to respond. Seven years ago I lost my mother and this past July I lost my father. I didn't have the opportunity to tell either of them everything I wanted to say to them and have regretted it every day of my life since (both died suddenly). I can only recommend that you tell them both what is on your mind and in your heart now, it may become even more difficult later and could end up never being expressed and that would be the true tragedy. All my best in the days to come.

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